Star Wars Kid Cuts a Deal With His Tormentors 865
An anonymous reader writes "Ghyslain Raza, who gained instant online fame as the 'Star Wars Kid' settled this week with the families of the three classmates who posted his two minute Lucasfilm screen test on the Internet. No details were released but the suit sought damages of $351,000. A victory for the victims of cyber-bullying, or missed chance by thin-skinned Ghyslain to cash-in as the next William 'She Bangs' Hung?"
Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:4, Interesting)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Funny)
Well, we can thank him for this much. Next time any of us is in a situation where we're dancing around playing "air lightsaber" (or even just air guitar), at least we can safely scratch "videotape it" off the list of "right things to do".
Schadenfreude: The joy of learning from other people's mistakes.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Informative)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Funny)
Obligatory informative Simpsons quote (Score:5, Interesting)
7F23: "When Flanders Failed"
http://www.snpp.com/episodes/7F23.html [snpp.com]
Re:Obligatory informative Simpsons quote (Score:4, Informative)
Really, it means "damage joy" (Schaden = damage, Freude = joy). I get a little bit of it every time I see this episode, because they screwed it up on syndicated TV. The word 'Schadenfreude' doesn't really connote a judgment on the feeling itself.
And speaking of that, not too long ago at the U, I saw some poor business major (guessed - he was going into the business school) catch the strap of his bag on the handle of the door he had just pushed open. Full speed, he swung around when the strap tightened up, and went face-first into the other side of the door. I discovered at that moment that transparent glass doors have distinct advantages over opaque doors.
I had to suppress laughter for about three hours afterwards.
Ahh, sweet Schadenfreude.
In case you didn't laugh enough the first time - (Score:3, Informative)
http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=star+wars+k
Re:In case you didn't laugh enough the first time (Score:5, Funny)
You may have a perfectly-working sense of humour. The video is not funny, it's 100% stupid. Some kid jumping around like a Methed Manatee. Big deal.
What's REALLY funny is his claim in court that "he let himself go and no longer lifted weights to keep fit." That fat fuck wasn't "fit" when it was recorded, so unless he had his stomach stapled between then and when he found out it was on the Internet, he's a fat fucking LIAR.
(Full disclosure: I am also a fat fuck and partial idiot; the difference is that I don't claim otherwise.)
Re:In case you didn't laugh enough the first time (Score:5, Funny)
Re:Wrong translation.. (Score:4, Funny)
Re:Wrong translation.. (Score:4, Funny)
No, he said humor.
Re:Wrong translation.. (Score:5, Funny)
If you don't think puns and knock-knock jokes are suffering then you must be the bastard that keeps telling those damned jokes.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Insightful)
The kids who posted this without thinking how it would affect his life are the ones who should be learning from this.
Fame is a fickle thing, some people try their whole lives to get it, others try to stay away from it. Being forced into a difficult situation IS bullying, and I hope this kid can grow out of his stereotype.
Everybody does stupid things, but to be reminded about them every single day must be hell.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Oh wait..
Now instead of being "the kid who dances with a lightsaber," beloved around the world. He's "the crybaby who can't take a joke" This isn't about standing up against bullies, internet fame is measured in minutes and his is long since passed. This is about money. If he was so concerned about getting past this embarrassing momnet he wouldn't have brought about a year long court cas
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:4, Interesting)
Frankly, no. But when you're constantly being hurt, it gets to the point where all that hurt condenses into one very dense lump, threatening to to supercritical at any time.
I never intentionally hurt anyone physicially, and while I have hurt people emotionally, that type of hurting is unavoidable in friendships and relationships. I didn't have fun in those instances. It hurt me as well as them.
But to go out of your way to torment others, for FUN, mind you... just for FUN.. to get your rocks off.. that's when my fantasies would come out.
If you can't see the distinction, then you've never been on the wrong end of the stick.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Wrong... (Score:5, Funny)
That is absolutly incorrect. It is well know to those of us that beat the crap out of a bully or two in our youth, that a baseball bat to the head will change things very quickly. If you avoid arrest, the bully very quickly learns that you are not a "fun" target anymore.
Re:Wrong... (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:Wrong... (Score:5, Insightful)
That is absolutly incorrect. It is well know to those of us that beat the crap out of a bully or two in our youth, that a baseball bat to the head will change things very quickly. If you avoid arrest, the bully very quickly learns that you are not a "fun" target anymore.
How right you are, but here's the funny part that I found: you don't even necessarily have to win the fight, you just have to be willing to fight it.
Putting up the resistance is usually all that's necessary. The mere threat of resistance is enough - bullies don't want to fight, they want to walk on you without effort. So, make 'em work for it, and you'll generally be left alone. I've see that to be true all throughout life, in all my personal and business relationships.
Be friendly! Work hard, help people, go to parties, be social, and be honorable in all your dealings! But whatever you do, make DAMNED SURE that at the first sign of any real threat, that they know that it would be painful to be your enemy.
Re:Wrong... (Score:3, Insightful)
No, but they'll leave you alone. So long as society continues to condone their actions (and don't pretend for a second that it doesn't), they'll always find somebody to bully. Best you can do is make sure you're not one of them.
"They most certainly do not crave revenge upon you"
Bullying is the exact opposite of seeking vengeance, it's about seeking a weaker target than yourself rather than going
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Just because you can imagine something worse doesn't mean that the original action isn't terrible.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Interesting)
No. You just send out the message that it's OK to torment people to the point to suicide. There are no consequences. You're victim and you will have a big group hug in 20 years time at the reunion. It made him stronger see.
They should never be forgiven. The best thing that can happen is for them to realise what they did and be consumed by regret for the rest of their lives, just like their victims. That's not being bitter
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Interesting)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
I don't think it's so much the taunting itself that usually upsets bullying victims, it's the fact that they're on the bottom of the social rung, the taunting is, in a way, a symptom or expression (and reminder) of that.
Generally there are two types of "taunting": The type of 'ragging' that guys do anyway between their friends, which although it may serve a purpose of re-affirming social hierarchies and boundaries it does so specifically in a "you're acceptable" way. The other type is taunting someone beca
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Interesting)
/*EndPopPsychology*/
YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME?!!! (Score:5, Insightful)
First of all, you took what he said out of content. even though he said what you posted. you completely overlooked the main focus of his post, and chose to dwell only what you took issue with - not because it was offensive, but because it hit a nerve with some unresolved issues that you have.
Those kids were just being kids, everyone in that situation would have done the same thing. I would say Raza should have thought how video taping this ridiculous video AND LEAVING IT IN THE SCHOOL TV STUDIO would affect his life. I mean, did he expect no one to see it there?
That would be the point. And guess what? Like it or not, it's true. Young boys have been doing things of this nature for years. Even kids who aren't bullies play pranks on each other sometimes. Not because they're evil - because they're kids. Truth be told, you don't know what the relationship was between the kids. That's today's ultra-sensitive society - everyone's having fun, until someone gets mad, tells their parents, and someone's getting sued. Half of the time the kids intentions weren't even how they tried to depict them as.
But that's not why I hate the internet. I can tolerate views that differ from mine with no problem. What I can't stand is the attitude that's reflected in the comment that you made:
Yeah, I know your type well, if you're what I think you are. How's the gas-pumping business, ya fucking jock?
I take online abuse on a regular basis from people like you, and I wasn't even a jock. Not because I'm rude, because people like you who hold these types of things in. They walk around fine, but the moment they get into a situtation of power, they're hell to deal with. Support forums are full of them all over the internet. You see, after years of being bullied, you have your safe haven where you can say whatever you like to whoever you like, and they just have to take it. Whether their power is in being a moderator, or in having a bunch of friends on the board, they frequently abuse it. They walk around all the time with a chip on their shoulder, making curt and semi-sarcastic, hoping someone says something back so they can let them have it or boot them from a room.
That "Internet John Wayne" crap isn't any less offensive or abusive than the kids that posted a silly dance tape on the internet. At least the kid recorded it himself.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Interesting)
The Paritisan Grandma's approach is much more productive ultimately.
You don't take crap. You make it very painful for others to try and dish it out. You end it quickly so there is none of this festering and simmering that ultimately leads to some mass shooting.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Insightful)
I, too, was bullied in middle school and high school. And yes, it sucks. However, I could leave school and go someplace else where there were other kids and "start over" and probably not be bullied. For example, the other kids in my Boy Scout troop did not bully or make fun of me. When I was in high school, I often went to church activities. There were other kids there and I made friends and there were girls there that liked me, etc. When I was back in school, all the kids hated me and no girls were interested in me because of the ridicule I got from the other kids. So, I learned that the problem wasn't with me, it was with the bullies. And then I went to college and I was very popular.
Ghyslain can't do that. Every place he goes, people are going to know that he is the "Star Wars kid" and make fun of him. He will never have a chance to start over with a new peer group with a clean slate. And that's what makes it worse - and that's why I really feel sorry for him.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
1. As many people have pointed out, the simplest way to stop being bullied is to stop taking shit from other people. It is an effective method that I finally discovered in the middle of high school and it did nothing short of change my life. The kid has had the ability to spin this since day one--either by embracing his internet fame or by showing these bullies that they couldn't ruin his life. Instead, his parents sued their parents. Great idea.
2. I've seen that video at leas
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Interesting)
I can only base my opinion on my own personal experience and what I've heard from others, but I think you went down the list of options almost to the letter.
Verbal or physical retaliation seem to work well for most people I've talked with about this. I have a knack--that I'm not particularly proud of--for verbally destroying people, and when I learned to stop pitying myself and dish it back out, I stopped having problems.
Physical violence is never a
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Informative)
And by the way, before you get all puffed up, you've got your ratio backwards. 1 Canadian Dollar = 0.87 US Dollars.
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Hindsight is 20/20 (Score:5, Insightful)
That lesson is: Temporary embarassment can lead to huge cash rewards!
Re:Please clairfy (Score:3, Informative)
"No one would comment yesterday about the settlement, including whether it included monetary compensation."
Re:Please clairfy (Score:5, Funny)
But he didn't get $351,000, because they reached a settlement. That implies that he took less than the $351,000 he was suing for. So here's all we can deduce based on logic: He got somewhere between $0 and $350,999.
Oh wait, I'm on Slashdot, and that requires me to end all of my posts with an unintentionally ironic derogatory statement about people who post on Slashdot.
How can you be so arrogant and so wrong? (Score:3, Insightful)
"The little morons took something that wasn't theirs with the intent to cause harm"
What harm? He was embarassed, and frankly, if you think that's worthy of wasting a CIVIL court's time, then I'm wasting my time with you.
Here's what really happened. Rich brat does something stupid, tapes it, it gets out, he's embarassed, rich brat's mom and dad give him what he wants (just like they always have) a
Re:How can you be so arrogant and so wrong? (Score:3, Interesting)
Lets see. Hmmmm. I can't find a damn thing that says that if a criminal act is committed it precludes a civil suit. Next non sequiter please.
What harm? He was embarassed
He spent time in mental institutions. Yes, some peoples grip on sanity is that tentative. That doesn't give the morons that did this some right to do it. Besides, it wasn't their video. they did not have a legal righ
No fair regarding Episode III (Score:3)
Certainly that would have been the ultimate vindication for the Star Wars Kid. Show him wielding a sabrestaff and kicking serious butt. I'm sure he would have gotten more than $300,000CA for the appearance. He'd be set for his entire college tuition even if
Go with The Force Luke (Score:5, Funny)
Everyone's different (Score:3, Insightful)
I'd like to sit down and talk with the guy, though...
Re:Everyone's different (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Everyone's different (Score:3, Insightful)
Certainly some "gifted" people find comfort in believing that about "normal" folk, anyway.
Wow (Score:5, Funny)
Re:Wow (Score:5, Funny)
and probably still whining that he wasn't offered a spot on the Jedi Council as part of the settlement.
Re:Wow (Score:3, Funny)
He could have made millions more... (Score:3, Insightful)
Overreaction (Score:5, Insightful)
Furthermore, I doubt that it will prevent so-called cyberbullying; it will just remind the more intelligent bullies to wreak their mischief anonymously.
When I think of all the bullies I had to deal with growing up, back in the pre-Web days, and the revenge I could have gotten by spoofing them on a website, well, I guess I'm glad I didn't have that opportunity to do something so easy that would haunt me the rest of my life. It would have been fun, though.
Re:Overreaction (Score:3, Funny)
Re:Overreaction (Score:4, Funny)
That's 300K+ Canadian
Re:Overreaction (Score:3, Insightful)
I'd steer clear of him, just because I wouldn't want to be the next person sued for whatever else sets him off. How is he going to make friends?
My guess is that if your not a total ass who tries to humiliate him on the internet, he won't sue you. Do you have any evidence he's ever sued anyone else before and that he get's 'set off' easily?
Re:Overreaction (Score:3, Insightful)
It's not like they accidentally caused him harm. They set about doing it. They deserve every bit of punishment that they receive. It is exactly this sort of bullying behavior that leads to teenagers committing suicide or worse, murder.
William 'She Bangs' Hung had a choice (Score:5, Insightful)
I still think got lemons bla bla you know
William Hung Signed A Release... (Score:5, Insightful)
Things would have been different if... (Score:5, Funny)
No Profits or No Tears? (Score:2, Funny)
It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:5, Informative)
For the record:
He had to drop out of school due to harassment.
He still gets approached by people on the streets about it.
His parents had to hire a private tutor for him.
He ended up on anti-depression medication.
It's not funny, don't laugh.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:4, Insightful)
The SWK will simply have to get over it all, and in fact should proudly take credit for his (unintentional) participation. Nerdy and overweight, he STILL did what he did out of his sheer love of the genre, and to a significant extent I'm sure the video producers did the same. As the years pass I hope he'll come to understand all that, and that it will take much of the sting out of the embarrassment he experienced. He's already made some money off the deal, so perhaps the maturing process has begun.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3, Insightful)
Obviously he's not laughing; thus you're not laughing WITH him, you're laughing AT him. Is that really hard to understand?
But I'm not Laughing... (Score:3, Interesting)
Reminds me of a situation at my old middle school. Our teacher reached up to pull down the overhead projector screen and accidentally pulled down the whole unit form the ceiling. She started laughing, so we joined in. All of a sudden, she turns, glares, and yells "Why are you lauughing at me?" One brave soul said, "Ma'am, we're not laught at you. We're laughing with you." to which she replied, "Do you see me laughing?"
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:5, Interesting)
This reminds me of previous story about the difficulties of employers reading personal blogs and making employment decisions based on what they find on the Net.
We're looking at a medium where what is put up will last for many many years (verging on forever, possibly) and while you can control what you post yourself, you can't control what others share. (You can go retroactively to the courts and get mocked mercilessly for it though.) People (even many here on slashdot) don't realize what a powerful medium it is.
I don't think that many people realize the tremendous potential for abuse that the internet holds. Sure the kid got 15 minutes of fame out of the deal, and he arguably didn't make the best use out of it, but this will dog him his entire life. He's one extreme example of how someone can leverage the internet to abuse someone else and cause irrepairable damage.
My guess is that whoever modded the parent funny didn't *really* understand how serious the problem is.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:5, Insightful)
Now in the real world, people at sites like fark, ebaumsworld, etc sold a whole lot of banner ads with this video. Why aren't they being sued? Or the graphics professionals who took a boring video of a fat kid from some website and added in effects and sounds, hosted it, and promoted it? Its one thing for me to release a video and its another for the video to get picked up by commercial interests and artists and turned into this week's crazy meme without permission. Ebaumsworld still hosts it now. Why are they free from litigation?
The real problems with these lawsuits is that they just get the easy money while fark and ebaumsworld and the rest continue this kind of nonsense. They dont ask permission, they don't ask the source, they just link and host and put all the banner ad money in their pockets. They're laughing all the way to the bank while some canadian families are now expected to get the 300k other people have made off this kid.
So "cyberbullies" get some sort of lesson, which probably won't resonate to the rest of the culture of bullying and website profiteers get off scott free. That's justice?
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:4, Informative)
Didn't read the whole article did ya...?
At the bottom you find-
Mr. Laflamme says in his examination that his father had savings of $500,000 from an inheritance.
So at least one of them will barely be affected.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:5, Funny)
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3, Insightful)
Obviously.
But don't tell anyone on earth what we may or may not laugh at.
Why not? You may not realize it, but you're reading and posting on a forum. I'll judge anything I feel like and tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Maybe I'm right or maybe I'm wrong, but it's certainly fair to tell someone when they're a jerk for thinking something is funny.
Re:Completely wrong (Score:4, Insightful)
It seems to me that you really don't understand what free will is. Psychological pressure is a determinating factor, EVEN in murder trials. Can you say "temporal insanity"?
Of course, you haven't been ridiculized in public or bullied so what the heck do you know.
Crazy time? (Score:5, Funny)
I surely can, but I don't understand what crazy time has to do with the subject.
(Note for the humor impaired: I know the OP meant temporary insanity)
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Worst. Sig. Evah.
Re:Completely wrong (Score:3, Insightful)
>No, he CHOSE to drop out of school. He wasn't forced, stop portraying it that way.
Semantics.
You are re-defining 'forced' to exclusively mean physical force, as in assualt or violent harassment.
I do not think you honestly believe harassment only comes in physical forms, but building a `strawman'... then tearing it down is not exactly honest. You must be an aspiring politician.
I'm not sure what I think of the judgement, but you are letting your
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:5, Insightful)
Okay I've read this story for a few moments, and this is the FOURTH TIME THIS HAS BEEN COMPARED TO RAPE. Are you kidding? Do you really think some idiot video taping himself doing something embarrassing, on and using school property, and then leaving the video in a public place, is remotely comparable to rape or child abuse? Jesus. Get some bloody perspective.
As far as this kid being alienated "because" of the video -- I have a pretty good feeling that he already was alienated. (And that he already had some odd interpersonal traits. When most well-adjusted people would have laughed at themselves and tried to capitalize on the situation, this guy acted like he'd had a labotomy or something). The video just gave him a lightning rod to focus all of his anger.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3)
I think the reason you are confused is that you are stupid. Hazing is like rape. Both are someone exercising power over someone else for personal pleasure. The issue of how the tape was made is irrelevant to the issue that someone used it for their personal pleasure to the detriment of the victim. Tha
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3, Insightful)
Yeah, the reason some people are bullied is because they dress differently than their peers. Or act differently. Or are smarter. Or are just unlucky enough to piss some asshole off.
But, that's okay, right. They had it coming. Being all smart and everything. That justifies systematic humiliation.
Re:It doesn't sound so funny.. (Score:3, Insightful)
The point isn't to stop something in progress, the point is not to wallow in your victimhood until your life is completely screwed up.
I was mugged once while taking a walk around my neighborhood (wasn't a bad neighborhood, either). Hit on the back of the head by a group of young black men. I woke up in a pool of blood from my head. Now, what are my responses after this?
1) Extreme fear of black men
cry some more (Score:3, Insightful)
case solved. plantiff guilty or embarrassing himself. we should not reward stupidity or accomdate it. the more accomodation, the more it appears. now this child/moron has learnd when things go against you, sue
"It's no fun what happened here, but that's the problem with the Internet. Things travel fast."
i believe thats a feature, not a problem. if it was as slow as the postal mail no one would use it for what it was designed...to quickly transmit data
at the risk of sounding un-sensitive, life sucks then you die. deal with it like everyone else or fast forward to the end
Good for Him! (Score:3, Insightful)
Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:5, Insightful)
On the outside, since we have no emotional attachment to the situation, it's easy for us to say "I'd ride that money train all the way to the bank" but that fails to give the situation its true weight. Being 15 is tough enough for most kids without having themeselves publically humilitated by their peers just for a few laughs. I'm not a huge fan of law suits in general, but in this instance I am. The action of these kids was not criminal but it was a terrible thing to do and there needs to be consequences.
Re:Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:5, Funny)
Re:Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:3, Interesting)
Yeah, because he's a little bitch unprepared to deal with the real world. I think we can blame that on his parents, though. Maybe if they'd dialed back the food a little, he wouldn't have been such a tubby little fucker. (I, too, am overweight; unlike this kid, I can handle it.)
Re:Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:5, Insightful)
A basic tenant of all legal systems (western and eastern) is the separate existence of "civil" wrongs (torts, contracts, etc) and "criminal" wrongs (murder, robbery, etc). For nearly 1,000 years western civilization (English common law at least) has recognized the right of an individual to bring suit against another individual even if no criminal law was violated. Most people are exposed to this concept in high school, I'm surprised it wasnt on the CHSPE.
The star wars kid sued under tort for intentional infliction of emotional distress (among other claims). This cause of action has been recognized in some form for hundreds of years and suing people for tortious actions is nothing new.
Re:Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:3, Insightful)
Not very well, it seems. If you feel the need to deride others in a similar situation as you, then obviously you feel the same way about yourself, and you're using "It's all his own fault" to justify your own self-loathing (since everything bad that happens to you is your fault).
(Or do you feel that you copping to your own failures somehow makes them better?)
Of course, just because you may have the same build as him doesn't mean there are pictures
Re:Walk a mile in his shoes... (Score:3, Interesting)
A) School sucks. People ridicule you. You get embarrased. Then you grow up and realize that apart from the education itself, none of it matters AT ALL. If there's one thing I'm going to pound into my kids' head as they're growing up, it's this. I learned this, everybody learns this. Granted, this is on a different scale, but it's the same principle. (And I doubt that now he even looks anything at all like he did three years ago so he can't fall back on that, "bu
His parents named him Ghyslain (Score:5, Funny)
Re:His parents named him Ghyslain (Score:3, Informative)
It's no worse than Nigel, Alastair, Douglas or Trevor...
Re:His parents named him Ghyslain (Score:3, Funny)
Re:His parents named him Ghyslain (Score:3, Funny)
Thank you.
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I disagree with this, but on the other hand... (Score:4, Insightful)
I'd also like to lay a [un]healthy amount of blame on this kid's parents. First of all, if he weren't fat, I'd say that this might NEVER have happened. And even if not being obese could have prevented some of it, it's unquestionable that his obesity exacerbated the situation greatly. And whose fault is a child's obesity? Without a medical excuse, it's the parents. And only recently has the media started to actually pay some attention to the problem. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0496200/ [imdb.com]) The damage done to a child who is obese is not just physical, but mental and emotional and the scars last for life. The damage resulting from childhood obesity alone could have been the root cause that made him so vulnerable to being bullied in the first place.
Nothing on the planet will stop all kids from potentially being bullied and/or being bullies themselves. It's actually part of the natural human condition. But adding to it through parental neglect is more than just a shame, it's child abuse and should be addressed criminally just as other forms of abusive/criminal neglect are.
There's not a single law possible to force someone to actually care about the feelings of other people.
It wasn't funny (Score:3, Insightful)
No (Score:3, Insightful)
Not everyone wants to debase their self respect just for cash.
While I don't think they should get off free... (Score:5, Insightful)
I mean, if these three had been working together to create this, then maybe. But this was more a case of pebbles starting an avalanche. Now I'm sorry the avalanche landed on Mr. Raza, but well... I don't think you should be punished for more than you intended to do, or reasonably could expect of consequences. It would be quite another thing if they were harassing him right up to the point where he freaked. But they dldn't, in fact they were as powerless to stop it themselves. Yes, someone found a funny tape and showed it to a buddy or two. That's not a $350000 offense.
Bullying is not right no matter what the age (Score:3, Interesting)
This boy didn't ask to be bullied, and he apparently did the screen test and didn't want anyone else to see it. The bullies stole the video and released it on the Internet, now they are paying for it.
Not everyone can handle bullying, and it puts a lot of emotional and psychological damage on a person. It takes a lot to learn to be a survivor rather than a victim as well. For me, it was well over 30 years before I finally came to terms with it and started to try to be a survivor. Only to suffer mental and physical illnesses so bad that I cannot work for a living. I only hope to heal up and get better and get back to work one day.
He Sued Krispy Kreme? (Score:4, Insightful)
You mean he sued Krispy Kreme for the way all those donuts endlessly tormented him?
I wouldn't normally make a cheap fat joke but something in the article got to me:
He said the situation left him feeling drained of energy, and that he let himself go and no longer lifted weights to keep fit.
Watch that video again sometime. Imagine how the ripplingly muscled greek adonis of that video must look now.
Oh, wait... He was a fat, dorky, clumsy idiot before the video ever got distributed. And distributing the video made him a fat, dorky, clumsy idiot?
I'm not saying it's cool that kids get bullied in highschool but one look at him tells you there's probably not a highschool on earth where he wouldn't have been the butt of endless jokes.
He was overweight, had a lousy haircut, was so mal-coordinated he couldn't stand upright when wiggling a broomstick, and was evidently an affirmed StarWars nerd. This is a kid who, whether bullying is acceptable or not, I think we can be pretty certain was bullied long before this video ever came out.
The one thing that changed was he got a degree of celebrity from this one which shifted it in to something OK to wallow in.
Most kids manage something utterly humiliating during their school lives. They wet themselves. They get dumped in public. They get their asses handed to them by a kid several years younger. Their yearbook picture catches them adjusting themselves. Their dad goes to jail. Whatever the case, they become the talk of the school for a couple of weeks. Their parents give them the tough but true advice, "Don't show that it bothers you and wait it out. In two or three weeks, someone else will have done something stupid."
In his case, the net gave him just enough celebrity to truly wallow. Instead of laughing and saying, "Yeah, it was pretty dorky, wasn't it." then leaving it two weeks to quieten down, he was pulled out of school. Instead of weathering it and waiting for it to die down, he gave interviews. Instead of being told, "Yeah, damn straight it sucks but it happens to everyone. You're just going to have to tough it out." this became "The Internet" and he was handed a great excuse to wallow. The really sad thing is, it's the wallowing that's likely done him the most harm.
Yeah, he'd have always got the odd joke about being the Star Wars kid but it would have died down. Instead, being allowed to wallow, he was able to completely sever all ties with normal teenage society. Instead of being allowed to cry at home every night for a week or two and then slowly face it, he was taken to a doctor and given meds, being told it was a reasonable response to be so upset. Instead of slowly accepting that, yeah, life does suck but you have to deal anyway, he was taught that his problems were someone else's fault and so he didn't have to take any responsibility in moving through them and coming out stronger on the far side.
I hate the bullying I faced as a kid. Some of it still hurts a huge amount. I'm also vastly more successful in life now because I had to come back from it and find a way through rather than was allowed to stay home, get home schooled, and wallow in how unfair everyone else was.
And so, when I hear how a fat kid who didn't exercise was so traumatized by his bullying that he "stopped pumping iron and really let [himself] go," I have to question how much of the problem was the same bullying that sucks utterly but toughens up most of us and how much was him getting a damned convenient excuse for many things that were already true.
How many guys out there "could have gone all the way" in their chosen sport before the got some terrible injury. And how many of them, if totally honest, never would have made it and the injury was a damned good excuse to stop trying and instead talk about what they could have been?
Is he any different other than that one video, that almost certainly wasn't the first time he was bullied, gave him a good excuse to stop trying in life and blame someone else for where he was, most likely, going to end up anyway?
Re:First I've Heard About This Kid (Score:4, Informative)
http://www.google.com/search?q=star+wars+kid [google.com]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_wars_kid [wikipedia.org]
But don't go to hxtp://wvw.starwarskid.com/
It's a college diploma mill (very sketchy)
How thick a skin do you have? (Score:5, Insightful)
The guys who stole (er, "misappropriated" this video and stuck it on the net for the sole purpose of humiliating this poor kid deserve to be punished, IMO, and here in the civilized world the way that people are punished for stuff like this is money; it's not a perfect system, but it's the best we've come up with so far.
They're just lucky they're not in the US -- the MPAA would have come down on them like the wrath of God for messing with this kid's copyright on his original work.
Re:How thick a skin do you have? (Score:3, Insightful)
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but the way we used to punish schoolkids for stuff like this was "detention", "suspension" and "expulsion"... if a crime has been committed and the miscreant is old enough, then "trial" and possibly "sentencing".
Money is a poor way of punishing people unless it's a) proportionate to the perpetrator's means, and b) direct
Re:Star Wars Kid Sucks (Score:5, Insightful)
What the hell? Why are so many of the comments saying things like this? He somehow deserves what happened to him because he wasn't smart enough, wasn't confident enough, didn't take advantage, whatever. Has everyone on this website forgotten what it's like to be a socially inept, outcast 15-year-old? Sure, by and large we've grown out of it, but a lot of us would not have appreciated having something we consider completely humiliating broadcast to the entire world.
You "can't blame someone else because of your personal problems," but what if the problems in question (humiliation in front of a worldwide audience, constant attention from the media and from strangers, drastically increased bullying in school when he was already not the most popular kid around) are in fact a direct result of someone else's actions? Can't you blame them for those actions, especially when they were done maliciously?
Everyone seems to be talking about fame as though it's this wonderful gift. Here's a clue: Not everyone wants it. And not everyone should be forced to want it, just because it's your opinion that he should have seized the opportunity and made a few bucks. Maybe he prefers the lack of fame over any potential profit he could have gotten from it. I know I would hate to be famous. That's not a sour grapes thing, I do have an ego and I would like to be well-respected within my own field, but real fame? Have you seen what the world does to celebrities? It's disgusting, and I'm glad that there's no realistic way that would happen to me.
Should the kid have filed a lawsuit? Maybe not. Personally I would lean towards no. But there's a big gap between "a lawsuit is inappropriate here" and "What's the matter with this kid, he deserves what he got, why is this bullied, insecure 15-year-old acting so insecure and immature? He should just get over it." No doubt he will get over it, but give him a few years -- it took a lot of us that long even without a major roadblock like this.
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Re:Star Wars Kid Sucks (Score:3, Insightful)
Re-read my post. I said no such thing. I'm sympathizing with him because he went through a terrible experience. I don't think 15 is an age where you can really say "Ah, you're a jerk? Then you deserve to be humiliated before the whole world!" If it were, most of us would have deserved that (or maybe still do).
I also don't care that some other more well-adjusted person might have taken what the other children intende
Re:Star Wars Kid Sucks (Score:3, Insightful)
Good lord, what is with people that they keep believing this nonsense? Why do extroverted people insist on believing that introverted people are deeply unhappy about their state, and would be able to have a normal happy life if only they could learn to socialize the way all the extroverts do? Why is there this persistent myth that if only we could learn to socialize and act normall